Ace - Angela Chen

Ace

Angela Chen

出版社

Beacon Press

出版时间

2020-09-15

ISBN

9780807013793

评分

★★★★★
书籍介绍

An engaging exploration of what it means to be asexual in a world that’s obsessed with sexual attraction, and what the ace perspective can teach all of us about desire and identity.

What exactly is sexual attraction and what is it like to go through life not experiencing it? What does asexuality reveal about gender roles, about romance and consent, and the pressures of society? This accessible examination of asexuality shows that the issues that aces face—confusion around sexual activity, the intersection of sexuality and identity, navigating different needs in relationships—are the same conflicts that nearly all of us will experience. Through a blend of reporting, cultural criticism, and memoir, Ace addresses the misconceptions around the “A” of LGBTQIA and invites everyone to rethink pleasure and intimacy.

Journalist Angela Chen creates her path to understanding her own asexuality with the perspectives of a diverse group of asexual people. Vulnerable and honest, these stories include a woman who had blood tests done because she was convinced that “not wanting sex” was a sign of serious illness, and a man who grew up in a religious household and did everything “right,” only to realize after marriage that his experience of sexuality had never been the same as that of others. Disabled aces, aces of color, gender-nonconforming aces, and aces who both do and don’t want romantic relationships all share their experiences navigating a society in which a lack of sexual attraction is considered abnormal. Chen’s careful cultural analysis explores how societal norms limit understanding of sex and relationships and celebrates the breadth of sexuality and queerness.

Angela Chen is a journalist and writer in New York City. Her reporting and criticism have appeared in the Wall Street Journal, Atlantic, Guardian, Paris Review, Electric Literature, Catapult, and elsewhere. Chen is a member of the ace community and has spoken about asexuality at academic conferences and events including World Pride. Find her on Twitter @chengela or at angelache...

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用户评论
She aced it! The concept of "hermeneutical injustice" is a game-changer for me. Would recommend this to anyone and everyone.
A book for you to unlearn 'compulsory sexuality' and a book for you to rethink relationships, sex, and erotisim|在Gay’s word 看到了实体书 本来想买 但真的太厚了 觉得这本书很适合读电子版!借了library的电子版读
恍然大悟 guess I’m aromantic not ace 原来aromantic就是很容易被误解为没有心/反社会 虽然一直没少被slut shaming,但人们对asexual的误解更大——asexual并不等于性冷淡,况且将心比心,有或没有libido其实都是人类生物多样性的呈现;父权社会害人不浅,在尚未建立完整认知时,你想要的不一定是真的,它也许只不过是社会认为/希望你想要的而已。 曾也怀疑过像这样的「贴标签」会不会反是种刻板保守,但事实上边缘群体的声音少之又少,而只有发声,才有被看见以及被探讨的可能。 总之不一定要是ace,而是假如你对主流婚恋观同样持否定态度,那么或许你也能从这本书里得到某些意想不到的答案。
详实的概念入门书,感觉讨论还是浅了点
拜读ace圣经!和预期不同,确实是非常记者的写法+入门的梳理,希望能有中译本,希望自己能早几年读到(意思是现在看完已经没有什么感想……但还是特别伟大(第一次知道真的有bed death这个用法&第一次直观地感受到ace运动和互联网如此息息相关🤯
读完感觉蛮平静的,并且能感受到作者对世界的爱和希望。本书在众多关于ace的故事和作者的个人经历中,穿插了一些学术研究,所以阅读流畅,算是一次有趣的体验。(她推荐的,所以马上就读了)Chapter 3: Compulsory Sexuality and (Male) Asexual Existence和最近超喜欢的Rich的Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence呼应上了,那种感觉很奇妙。
震惊第一次知道libido和性吸引是两码事,那么我是demisexual(or demiromantic?) + graysexual。当然如何归类从来不是重点,而是为了更好了解自己和周围。QPP很有启发,虽实践不易。这本也比浪女更好读,就是有点儿啰嗦。 “Not having a super-exciting sex life is in some ways a political failure”尤其能relate。每当看到很多女性大方谈论其精彩前卫的性生活,只能默默自嘲为“温和派”feminist。曾经也有过“解放”的念头可半只脚没落地就收回了(还好!)not really my thing. 性解放确实不应该等同于越多越好,而是从耻感中解放,了解并尊重ur true desire。
是读完立刻想读第二遍、想做扩展阅读、想推荐给所有人的书。不仅仅关于ace,更关于sex in society,关于amatonormativity, compulsory sexuality的部分我都很喜欢。个人最有共鸣的部分在race intersection,consent的四种划分,sex 与feminism,sexual desire与self worth,qpp。这本书也让我第一次反思自己的性取向,原来我从没体验过sexual attraction。美中不足是非常美国中心,东亚的性文化很不一样。两句话总结就是Take a step back, 以及We're all still figuring it out. 总之是很liberating的一本书,想对作者说谢谢。
读了两遍。一本无论取向任何人如何读完都会受益的书。非常喜欢这种从人的自我认知和对亲密关系的拆解探讨入手来分析asexuality从哪儿来到哪儿去,以及最后以小见大地带领大家展望一个更加多元平等开放的世界的方式。从微观而言,这本书带来的启迪和赋能也许会因读者的自身经历和思考习惯而异,但它一定可以让你退后一步观察和思考既有的规则,拆掉你身上的一些枷锁,让你感到更自由。从社会角度而言,即使是最顺直最没有需求或者勇气去探索和打破的人读完此书,应该也会在面对少数群体的时候抱着一颗更开放更接纳的心吧。曾经觉得年近30发现自己的酷儿属性是让我觉得最有力量最自由的事情,读完此书觉得能摒弃出厂设置并且享受其中是一种gift,甚至是一种特权,毕竟很多人因此而自卑而自我怀疑而遭遇挫折(这是不公平不必要的)
看得蛮感动的,这本书虽说是讲asexuality但是涵盖的范围其实更为广泛。虽然很多观点并无创新但很能引起共鸣。sex and sexuality are for sure political. Compulsory sexuality也是个好词儿。anyway, it all boils down to the necessity to know who you are and what you want, and accept and feel comfortable with those facts as they are.
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