"The word "love" is most often defined as a noun, yet...we would all love to better if we used it as a verb," writes bell hooks as she comes out fighting and on fire in All About Love . Here, at her most provacative and intensely personel, the renowned scholar, cultural critic, and feminist skewers our view of love as romance. In its place she offers a proactive new ethic for a people and a society bereft with lovelessness. As bell hooks uses her incisive mind and razor-sharp pen to explode th question "What is love?" her answers strike at both the mind and heart. In thirteen concise chapters, hooks examines her own search for emotional connection and society's failure to provide a model for learning to love. Razing the cultural paradigm that the ideal love is infused with sex and desire, she provides a new path to love that is sacred, redemptive, and healing for the individuals and for a nation. The Utne Reader declared bell hooks one of the "100 Visionaries Who Can Change Your Life." All About Love is a powerful affirmation of just how profoundly she can.
- 将爱定义为动词，强调行动而非感觉
- 批判父权制与消费主义对爱的扭曲
- 爱是包含关心、责任与尊重的意志
- 对亲密关系感到困惑或迷茫者
- 关注性别议题与女权主义读者
- 希望提升爱与被爱能力的人
- 需耐心阅读，非轻松鸡汤读物
- 结合自身体验反思爱的定义
- 关注爱在家庭与社会中的实践
- 爱是反统治、反恐惧的自我革命
- 真爱需要勇气去拥抱脆弱与真实
- 爱是一种需要学习与实践的能力
本导读基于书籍简介、目录、原文摘录、短评和书评生成，不等同于全文精读。
- "To know love we have to tell the truth to ourselves and to others. Creating a false se lf to mask fears and insecurities has become so common that many of us forget who we are and what we feel underneath the pretense. Breaking through this denial is always the first step in uncovering our longing to"
- "When feminism first began, women talked openly about our desires to know men better, to love them for who they really are. We talked about our desires to be loved for who we really are (i.e., to be accepted in our physical and spiritual beings rather than feeling we had to make ourselves into a fant"
- "The wounded child inside many males is a boy who, when he first spoke his truths, was silenced by paternal sadism, by a patriarchal world that did not want him to claim his true feelings. The wounded child inside many females is a girl who was taught from early childhood on that she must become some"
- "如今的青年文化对爱表现得愤世嫉俗，而这种怀疑态度来自一种普遍存在的无法找到爱的感觉。哈罗德·库什纳（Harold Kushner）在《当你所想要的一切还不够》（When AllYow've Ever Wanted Isn't Enough）中表达了这种担忧，他写道：“我担心我们可能会培养出一代害怕爱、害怕付出自己的年轻人，因为他们会看到冒着风险去爱却没有结果是多么痛苦。我担心他们长大后会寻找没有风险的亲密关系和没有情感投入的满足。他们会如此害怕失望的痛苦，以至于他们会放弃爱和快乐的可能性。”年轻人对爱愤世嫉俗，而归根结底，愤世嫉俗只是用来掩盖失望和害怕背叛的心的面具。"
- "Most psychologically and/or physically abused children have been taught by parenting adults that love can coexist with abuse. And in extreme cases that abuse is an expression of love. This faulty thinking often shapes our adult perceptions of love. So that just as we would cling to the notion that t"
- "Spiritual life is first and foremost about committment to a way of thinking and behaving that honors principles of inter-being and interconnectedness."
- "I have been astonished by hearing individuals who inherited wealth in childhood warn against sharing resources because people needing help should work for money in order to appreciate its value. Inherited wealth and/or substantial material resources are rarely talked about in the mass media because "
- "The rugged individual who relies on no one else is a figure who can only exist in a culture of domination where a privileged few use more of the world's resources than the many who must daily do without. Worship of individualism has in part led us to the unhealthy culture of narcissism that is so al"
