书籍介绍
这不是一本让人读得舒服的书，它让人读得难受——而正是这份难受，构成了它不可替代的价值。当施暴者是至亲的父亲与哥哥，当母亲在麻木中放任乃至逼女儿卖淫养家，奥尔加·特鲁希略没有选择记住，而是让
作者简介
奥尔加·特鲁希略（Olga Trujillo），社区律师、专业顾问和演讲者，主要处理家庭暴力、儿童虐待、性侵犯以及创伤带来的影响。曾获得由全国儿童联盟（National Children’s Alliance）颁发的优秀领导奖以及阳光女士基金会和平奖。
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核心看点
- 家暴幸存者自述，记录从童年创伤到31岁确诊DID的历程。
- 展现多重人格作为心理防御机制，如何帮助作者在绝境中生存。
- 详述通过心理治疗整合分裂人格，最终直面阴影并重建生活的勇气。
读者共识
- 文字极具冲击力，真实呈现世界背面，令人震撼又心碎。
- 作者展现出的坚韧与勇气令人敬佩，是创伤幸存者的奇迹。
- 虽过程痛苦，但为理解DID及心理防御机制提供了珍贵视角。
精彩摘录
- "Sister Mary Joseph's early discussions with my mom were about my schoolwork, but they changed a month or so into the school year. Soon she was also asking my mom about my bruises, my illnesses, and how tired I seemed. From the back of the room, while I pretended to focus on my coloring book, I liste"
- "As summer drew to a close, I looked forward to starting school but also felt a deep sense of dread that fall was coming. Some parts inside of me were aware that I was abused more during the fall and winter because I was more accessible to my father; the days were shorter and I had fewer places to go"
- "Mike scurried to pull up his pants and stood there looking verysmall. I ran over to Dona Graciela, hugged her through the fence, and cried into her dress. Dona Graciela stroked my hair and said: "I' m watching, Olguita." A.J. came over to the fence and asked Mike if he was okay, but Mike just kept h"
- ""Veronica, for the past two years I've been recalling memories of abuse from when I was a child. I'm in therapy, but it's a grueling process. I have an ADA accommodation to see my therapist four times a week, but I'm about to start seeing him five times a week for ninety-minute sessions. I'm not abl"
- "Veronica came around her desk and sat in the chair next to me. "I would love to have you in my office. You would bring a wealth of knowledge—not just your legal skills, but an understanding of what a victim goes through. You can help us all keep that in mind. You can help us understand healing and t"
- "After a moment, I collected myself and thanked her. I walked down the five flights of stairs to my office, avoiding the elevator because I didn't want to be seen crying. Back at my office, I was surprised to find Marty waiting for me. He had Dr. Summer's letter in his hand. Dr.Summer had written abo"
- "He said, I'm so sorry. I'm not sure we've been the supportive workplace you thought we were. I'll help you in whatever way I can. Crying again now myself, I closed the door and hugged him. "Thank you. You're a good friend." We sat there with tears streaming down our faces. "Marty, I want to go to OV"
- ""Does Veronica know all this?" He held up the letter. “No, I didn't tell her that much.” "I won't show it to anyone. I'll just tell Rosie that I have what I need to justify the accommodation." I thanked him, trying not to start crying again. I gave him another hug, and he left to make the necessary "
目录
第一部分在遗忘中生存 / 001
第二部分黑暗中的探索 / 067
第三部分打开心扉 / 117
第四部分选择面对 / 179
用户评论
启蒙
【2018.105】正因为DID，让她生存了下来，裂变的同时也在守护，最后一个个发声祈求治愈
作者与最恶劣的环境作斗争，从绝望中一步一步走出来，也激励着他人。
“如果你不够强大，你就不会在这里，你不会明白你需要做什么，你还在逃避影子，逃离黑暗。” 有勇气面对就已经很了不起了 愿你从此被这个世界温柔以待/// （一直不理解为什么她母亲不去保护她）
这是一个家庭暴力幸存者的自述，有人说，世界上最大规模和残忍的屠杀，并不是二战时候的集中营，而是房思琪式的强暴。然而更让人绝望的是，强暴自己的是至亲的爸爸和哥哥们！当至亲的家人伸出魔爪，这该是怎样的地狱？能看到这书的你是多么幸运，你不用亲身接触，就能看到世界的背面！！！
图书馆随便翻到的，感觉更能理解DID了
泪目数次，看作者介绍的照片时，就感觉作者有点像同性恋，没想到还真是。第一部分看得人气傻了，结尾很是励志
看评语说有个描述作者被强奸时，第三人称视角像个灵媒时，可以了解下什么是人格解离：体，身体，人格从身体中分离出来（比如，坐在教室，突然会感觉自己飘在空中看着教室里的同学。比如，走着走着，突然感觉眼前的一切都如此陌生，步子轻飘飘的，周围的声音似乎也变得遥远了）
人格解体算是一种身体的自我防御机制
而人格解离，和上面那个词语很像，但俗称多or双重人格
这本书读起来痛苦又令人心碎，我无法想象真正经历这一切的作者所受到的伤害有多么巨大，我只是读她写下的文字，用我的认知去理解就已经心碎不已。作者真是一位坚强勇敢的女性，不是所有人都能撑过那些虐待，更不能正常生活下去，她真的很坚强勇敢，敬佩。
@2020-04-16 18:21:11
读得压抑又黑暗，正巧那段时间也是我最黑暗的时光。
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