8 Rules of Love

这本书最打动人的地方，是它把'爱自己'从一句口号拆成了可练习的具体能力。作者不满足于劝人'先学会独处'，而是用'孩子拿红宝石去不同地方问价'的寓言提醒读者：你的自我价值，往往取决于你把自己放在何处被估价。读者反复记住的'You want to go on a journey with someone, not to make them your journey'，恰恰点破了全书的核心张力——健康的亲密关系里，对方是你同行旅伴，而非填补空缺的工具。它适合那些看腻了浪漫电影、却仍不知如何在关系里守住边界的人；也适合愿意把'爱人之前先成为自己的拯救者'当作起点而非终点的人。它不是速效药，更像一份关系全程的练习手册。

Jay Shetty is a #1 New York Times bestselling author, award-winning storyteller, podcast host, and former monk, dedicated to helping people train their mind for peace and purpose every day. In 2017, Forbes named him to their 30 Under 30 List for his game-changing impact in media. His viral videos have been viewed more than 10 billion times and he is followed by over 50 million people across social media. In 2019, Jay created On Purpose, now the world’s #1 Health and Wellness podcast. He’s been a keynote speaker around the world, invited to Google, Microsoft, Netflix and American Express, among many others. Over two million people have attended his Online School, and his Genius Coaching community provides weekly programming on health and wellness to thousands of members in over 100 countries.