Burnout - Amelia Nagoski

Burnout

Amelia Nagoski

出版时间

2019-03-26

ISBN

9781785042072

评分

★★★★★
书籍介绍

Burnout. Many women in America have experienced it. What's expected of women and what it's really like to be a woman in today's world are two very different things--and women exhaust themselves trying to close the gap between them. How can you "love your body" when every magazine cover has ten diet tips for becoming "your best self"? How do you "lean in" at work when you're already operating at 110 percent and aren't recognized for it? How can you live happily and healthily in a sexist world that is constantly telling you you're too fat, too needy, too noisy, and too selfish?

Sisters Emily Nagoski, PhD, and Amelia Nagoski, DMA, are here to help end the cycle of feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. Instead of asking us to ignore the very real obstacles and societal pressures that stand between women and well-being, they explain with compassion and optimism what we're up against--and show us how to fight back. In these pages you'll learn

* what you can do to complete the biological stress cycle--and return your body to a state of relaxation

* how to manage the "monitor" in your brain that regulates the emotion of frustration

* how the Bikini Industrial Complex makes it difficult for women to love their bodies--and how to defend yourself against it

* why rest, human connection, and befriending your inner critic are keys to recovering and preventing burnout

With the help of eye-opening science, prescriptive advice, and helpful worksheets and exercises, all women will find something transformative in these pages--and will be empowered to create positive change. Emily and Amelia aren't here to preach the broad platitudes of expensive self-care or insist that we strive for the impossible goal of "having it all." Instead, they tell us that we are enough, just as we are--and that wellness, true wellness, is within our reach.

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[有声书] 因为压力大,最近在看/听self help的书籍… 这本虽然被评价没有新鲜内容,但一些看似重复的重点,也因为是真的重要所以值得多次强调:良好睡眠,身体锻炼,对自己不要太苛刻,对别人对自己的要求和期待不要毫无保留地去满足。再加一点:凡事量力而行。
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第一本認真讀完的self-help book。complete stress cycle 那章很有用。其他有效信息量不太夠,writing有點吵。
可能是我对本书期待太高,并不像我想象中的有实用性。而且说实话一本讲女性burnout的书,都没有提到生理周期,蛮让人失望的。 倒是作者的一个访谈比较有趣,如果把人类分成两类一类为了能从自己梦想自己利益而行动获得成就感 比较自私,另外一类通过帮助别人而获得成就感 比较有同理心。 不难看出在今天的社会,更多的男人是前者,更多的女人是后者。我们一直在想办法如何从后者变成前者,但为什么不是应该把前者变成后者呢?Melinda的moment of lift 讲战争的片段也有提过类似的想法。
一本不走寻常路的self-help书:不仅给出一些减少压力的方法,同时从父权角度解释了为什么女性在当下社会倍感压力。这本书给我最大的启示就是意识到了自己的偏见。作为亚裔女性,在西方是被双重歧视的对象。然而,反歧视和自认为平等待人的我在不经意间也在歧视着胖子,尤其是亲近的胖子们:比如以健康名义逼迫家人运动和减肥、嘲笑对象的肚腩等等。按作者的说法,这是和racism和sexism一样糟糕的sizeism。😱
Deal with the stress before you deal with the stressor - complete the stress cycle (略啰嗦,很多无用信息,但也有一些老生常谈的点在无数次repeat之后才能种进脑子里)
3.5 complete the stress cycle; treat human giver syndrome and smash patriarchy; learned helplessness闻者落泪;body image那章就是道理都懂,我还是想瘦成麻杆。感觉看看总结就行了,没必要读全书。
还行
“Complete stress circle”这个概念还是不错的,但太多moans about “human giver”。整体感觉是“姐妹儿们聚一起聊聊这个世界有多fucked up,只有女人才懂女人的难处”。feminist让人困惑啊,反复强调只有女性才有的difficulties,倒有些over sensitive和沉浸在victim narrative的感觉。
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