Me, Myself, and Us

Brian R Little

出版社

PublicAffairs

出版时间

2014-10-14

ISBN

9781586489670

评分

★★★★★
书籍介绍

How does your personality shape your life… and what, if anything, can you do about it?

Are you hardwired for happiness, or born to broo d? Do you think you’re in charge of your future, or do you surf the waves of unknowable fate? Would you be happier, or just less socially adept, if you were less concerned about what other people thought of you? And what about your “Type A” spouse: is he or she destined to have a heart attack, or just drive you to drink?

In the past few decades, new scientific research has transformed old ideas about the nature of human personality. Neuroscientists, biologists, and psychological scientists have reexamined the theories of Freud and Jung as well as the humanistic psychologies of the 1960s, upending the simplistic categorizations of personality “types,” and developing new tools and methods for exploring who we are.

Renowned professor and pioneering research psychologist Brian R. Little has been at the leading edge of this new science. In this wise and witty book he shares a wealth of new data and provocative insights about who we are, why we act the way we do, what we can—and can’t—change, and how we can best thrive in light of our “nature.”

Me, Myself, and Us explores questions that are rooted in the origins of human consciousness but are as commonplace as yesterday’s breakfast conversation, such as whether our personality traits are “set” by age thirty or whether our brains and selves are more plastic. He considers what our personalities portend for our health and success, and the extent to which our well-being depends on the personal projects we pursue.

Through stories, studies, personal experiences, and entertaining interactive assessments, Me, Myself, and Us provides a lively, thought-provoking, and ultimately optimistic look at the possibilities and perils of being uniquely ourselves, while illuminating the selves of the familiar strangers we encounter, work with, and love.

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Reviews

“Me, Myself, and Us is a truly gripping look at questions at the heart of the human experience. Why do we do what we do? How does our environment shape our nature and our nature our environment? Are some people just innately happier than other? In crisp and lucid prose, one of the giants in the field of personality science tackles these questions and many more. I defy you to read this book and not change the way you think about your friends, your family, and yourself.”

—Daniel H. Pink, author of DRIVE and A WHOLE NEW MIND

Insightful, clever and practical. Professor Little is a genius, making personality psychology not only relevant but essential knowledge in the modern world. This book is one “aha” moment after another, each rocking your world and upending the way you think about your coworkers, your relationships and your life.”

—Shawn Achor, New York Times bestselling author of The Happiness Advantage and CEO of GoodThink

“Me, Myself, and Us is a masterpiece. With extraordinary wit and wisdom, distinguished psychologist Brian Little offers startling insights about our trivial pursuits and magnificent obsessions. It should come with a warning label: this book will fundamentally change the way you see yourself and everyone you know.”

—Adam Grant, Wharton professor and bestselling author of Give and Take

“Brian Little is one of the wisest, funniest, kindest, and most erudite people I have ever met, and in this book you’ll be treated to a generous helping of all these personality traits. A monumentally important book for anyone who wants to understand their colleagues, their loved ones — and their very own selves.”

—Susan Cain, author of the New York Times bestseller Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking“

Professor Brian R. Little is an internationally acclaimed scholar and speaker in the field of personality and motivational psychology. He is a fellow of the Well-being Institute at Cambridge University, where he also lectures in the Department of Psychology and the Cambridge Judge Business School. He is a distinguished research professor emeritus at Carleton University. Little ...

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作者简介
Professor Brian R. Little is an internationally acclaimed scholar and speaker in the field of personality and motivational psychology. He is a fellow of the Well-being Institute at Cambridge University, where he also lectures in the Department of Psychology and the Cambridge Judge Business School. He is a distinguished research professor emeritus at Carleton University. Little has taught at Carleton, McGill, Oxford, and Harvard Universities. He was elected as a Favorite Professor by the graduating classes of Harvard for three consecutive years. He lives in Cambridge, England, and Ottawa, Canada. For more information, visit brianrlittle.com or follow him on Twitter @DrBrianRLittle."
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核心看点
  • 本书颠覆了人格决定论的迷思,明确指出人格特质虽具遗传基础,但并非不可改变。作者通过严谨的科学证据,驳斥了简单的人格类型分类,强调个体拥有‘自由特质’,即在特定情境下可以违背天性行事,从而打破性格对人生的束缚,赋予读者改变自我的理论依据与希望。
  • 深入探讨‘个人计划’与幸福感的关系,指出追求符合核心价值观的目标是获得深层满足的关键。书中分析了内在控制点对学业和事业成功的积极影响,强调通过持续进步和微小胜利带来的‘无我’体验,是实现自我更新和内在幸福的有效路径,而非依赖外在评价或固定性格。
  • 批判性地审视社会对人格的刻板印象与标签化行为,揭示人们在缺乏信息时构建他人故事的偏见机制。作者引导读者反思自身是否过度局限于某些个人建构,鼓励读者识别并修正这些限制性信念,倡导一种既尊重科学事实又充满人文关怀的自我认知方式,拒绝被单一维度定义。
读者共识
  • 读者普遍赞赏作者幽默风趣且亲切自然的文风,认为其将复杂的心理学理论以通俗易懂、毫无说教的方式呈现。许多评论指出,阅读体验轻松愉快,像与一位聪明深刻的朋友对话,既无学术枯燥感,也无鸡汤的虚伪感,是人格心理学领域难得的优质科普入门读物。
  • 读者高度认同书中关于‘人格可塑性’及‘自由特质’的观点,认为这打破了‘性格无法改变’的宿命论迷思。大量反馈表示,书中内容提供了新的自我观察维度,让人意识到自己拥有‘不做自己’的能力,从而在保持真实的同时,更灵活地应对社会压力,获得心理上的解放与启发。
  • 尽管部分读者指出内容存在冗余,但整体评价极高,认为其科学严谨且富有洞见。读者共识认为,本书不仅提供了关于人格的科学知识,更引导读者反思个人计划与幸福的关系,强调内在控制点的重要性。这种结合科学实证与人文关怀的论述,被广泛认为是提升自我认知、促进心理健康的重要资源。
精彩摘录
  • "越来越多的证据,尤其是来自经济学家的证据显示,具有内在控制点的青少年,即内在的青少年,在学业和未来事业上会取得更积极的结果。"
  • "Finally, it is important to realize that well-being has many different facets, and these facets may be in conflict. Your pursuit of creative ventures might bring inordinate satisfaction. It might become the defining cause of your life. It might change the world. But it might extract a toll on your h"
  • "第一个问题是,你希望恋人是低自我监控者还是高自我监控者?第二个问题,你希望国家领导人是低自我监控者还是高自我监控者?"
  • "在日常生活中,人们常常会基于很少的信息做出推断,建构出有关陌生人的故事。"
  • "你看待自己的方法是否过度局限于一些个人建构?你是否狂热地坚持某些建构?"
  • "然而,在最后这个总结性的章节中,我认为无论是诗情画意,还是人间烟火,都应该有其一席之地。 因此,接下来的内容将会是抒情诗、祈祷与柴米油盐的混合。"
  • "个人建构可以改变,这给予了我们希望。"
  • "你认为你是谁? 从某种意义上说,也就是你是如何理解“你是你的个人建构”的。"
用户评论
超幽默
事实证明这本书需要静下心慢慢看...记忆最深的是where you are right now? What are you doing? And, who you are? 在这之后需要不断审问自己的怕是what's ur life project?
人格心理学科普入门
许多关于自我和他人行为意识的迷思在开始阅读这本书的时候似乎逐一地找到了答案,在生活发生巨变的的时候感到措手不及又或是焦躁不安是一件异常普遍的事,重要的是学会如何去接受改变,更加勇敢地面对自己的情感。
文笔幽默
有启发。
平实可读,但有学术的观点和论据。
金晶老师推荐。19年听完的。深入浅出。作者有TED talk. 为了自己的personal project,每个人可以展示非天生的个性。
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