Come as You Are

这不是一本教你'技术'的书，尽管它的封面容易让人误以为如此。作者的核心观点大胆而反直觉：性欲不是单一'冲动'，而是'油门'与'刹车'共同作用的结果——真正卡住多数人的，往往是后者的社会性压力，而非生理缺陷。书中反复强调：每个女性的身体与反应都是独一无二的，'有反应'不等于'有欲望'，'口是心非'的错觉甚至能为暴力辩护。它最打动人的地方，是把'觉得自己不正常'的羞耻，转化为'只要不疼痛，就是正常'的温柔接纳。适合所有怀疑自己、或因身体而痛苦的女性——它不给你一颗'粉色药丸'，而是给你与自己和解的勇气。

Emily Nagoski is Wellness Education Director and Lecturer at Smith College, where she teaches Women's Sexuality. She has a PhD in health behavior with a doctoral concentration in human sexuality from Indiana University, and a master's degree in counseling, with a clinical internship at the Kinsey Institute Sexual Health Clinic. She has taught graduate and undergraduate classes in human sexuality, relationships and communication, stress management, and sex education. She is the New York Times bestselling author of Come As You Are and The Come As You Are Workbook as well as three guides for Ian Kerner's GoodInBed.com, including the Guide to Female Orgasm, and her own blog, The Dirty Normal.