Hold Me Tight - Sue Johnson

Hold Me Tight

Sue Johnson

出版时间

2008-04-08

ISBN

9781423363668

评分

★★★★★
书籍介绍
Heralded by the New York Times and Time magazine as the couple therapy with the highest rate of success, Emotionally Focused Therapy works because it views the love relationship as an attachment bond. This idea, once controversial, is now supported by science, and has become widely popular among therapists around the world. In Hold me Tight, Dr. Sue Johnson presents Emotionally Focused Therapy to the general public for the first time. Johnson teaches that the way to save and enrich a relationship is to reestablish safe emotional connection and preserve the attachment bond. With this in mind, she focuses on key moments in a relationship-from Recognizing the Demon Dialogue to Revisiting a Rocky Moment-and uses them as touchpoints for seven healing conversations. Through case studies from her practice, illuminating advice, and practical exercises, couples will learn how to nurture their relationships and ensure a lifetime of love.
用户评论
the world is inherently traumatic,and we need emotional connections to deal with it . strong emotional bonds are the core of a good sex life that last throughout the years. relationships cause trauma that has to be confronted and healed.
新的东西比较少吧
相见恨晚啊,大量couple therapy案例贯穿全书,生动易懂有共鸣,看着看着就哭了。前几章讲如何有意识地发现彼此争执时的pattern,落脚点是理解、接纳双方的raw spots & attachment needs,不仅要耐心发掘对方protest背后的原因,也要积极勇敢地表达自己的emotional feelings来帮对方理解自己。所有的正向、负向的spiral都不是一个人促成的,说到底,双方积极参与沟通表达仍是重中之重,只有实用性的problem solving而没有语言和肢体的reassurances是远远不够的。也提到了如何与经历过trauma的伴侣相处,如何原谅彼此,如何区分性生活是真的bonding还是找刺激或补偿行为。挺棒挺实用的!
很喜欢里面的案例,简直复原了我的生活一般,学习到很多沟通的方式,但还是会吵架
差不多读前2-3个chapter就可以,后面大多数是重复的意思来会说
太长太长太长!内容一句话就概括了:Be open with each other
If you hold me tight, I will hold you tighter and more firmly…
案例多到没必要
从亲密关系开始体验连接和爱,只有在温暖安全的地方我们才能超越自身,关爱和给予他人,再经由链式反应将这些微小的善意放大至整个世界。
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