I Hear You - Michael S. Sorensen

I Hear You

Michael S. Sorensen

出版时间

2017-06-19

ISBN

9780999104002

评分

★★★★★
书籍介绍
What if making one tweak to your day-to-day conversations could immediately improve every relationship in your life? In this 3-hour, conversational read, you’ll discover the whats, whys, and hows of one of the most valuable (yet surprisingly little-known) communication skills available—validation. Whether you’re looking to improve your relationship with your spouse, navigate difficult conversations at work, or connect on a deeper level with friends and family, this book delivers simple, practical, proven techniques for improving any relationship in your life. Mastery of this simple skill will enable you to: Calm (and sometimes even eliminate) the concerns, fears, and uncertainties of others Increase feelings of love, respect, and appreciation in your romantic relationships Quickly resolve, or even prevent, arguments Help others become open to your point of view Give advice and feedback that sticks Provide support and encouragement to others, even when you don’t know how to “fix” the problem And much more In short: this skill is powerful. Give the principles and practices in this book a chance and you’ll be amazed at the difference they can make.
用户评论
非常好的书,还简洁。我一直都是个安慰苦手,成功率低,后来逐渐放弃直接安慰人了,换成“我好希望我能说点什么让你感觉好一点,但我不擅长安慰人,真的不知道怎么办”反而挺受用的。。。看了这本书我知道为什么这么简单的说法反而能work,也知道为什么之前的思路不行了。以前我总想让人家看开点,但其实来诉说的人大多并不是想让你打醒ta或是要advice, 只是需要人倾听并validate ta的感情。总得来说,不要用"it could be worse" "it's not healthy to feel that" "why r u worried? its not a big deal..."来企图让人清醒过来。书有展开讲各种实操的要点,不是纯理论教学。挺好。
Week 5, Book 5 ====== 倾听是很重要的技能,可惜现在很少有人去认真倾听了
About validating others' feelings and advising sensibly only when permitted. @amazon.com KU
读的时候脑内浮现起数次自己难过倾述结果被气得要死的经历,也不断为自己总是不加以克制的“好言相劝”而后悔,沟通是一门艺术,现在就从validate myself开始。L MV V VP GF VA VV
简明易懂,又非常重要的小书
特别棒的一本书,我常常在沟通时有一个误区,当别人向你倾诉烦恼时,总是忍不住说都是这样的,坚持一下,或者否定别人的自我否定,但其实对方其实可能传达的情绪才是最重要的。新的一年准备新的沟通方式!
学到了一个很简单的沟通技巧,正在慢慢实践中。
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