Women Don't Ask - Linda Babcock

Women Don't Ask

Linda Babcock

出版时间

2003-09-01

ISBN

9780691089409

评分

★★★★★
书籍介绍

When Linda Babcock asked why so many male graduate students were teaching their own courses and most female students were assigned as assistants, her dean said: "More men ask. The women just don't ask." It turns out that whether they want higher salaries or more help at home, women often find it hard to ask. Sometimes they don't know that change is possible--they don't know that they can ask. Sometimes they fear that asking may damage a relationship. And sometimes they don't ask because they've learned that society can react badly to women asserting their own needs and desires. By looking at the barriers holding women back and the social forces constraining them, "Women Don't Ask" shows women how to reframe their interactions and more accurately evaluate their opportunities. It teaches them how to ask for what they want in ways that feel comfortable and possible, taking into account the impact of asking on their relationships. And it teaches all of us how to recognize the ways in which our institutions, child-rearing practices, and unspoken assumptions perpetuate inequalities--inequalities that are not only fundamentally unfair but also inefficient and economically unsound. With women's progress toward full economic and social equality stalled, women's lives becoming increasingly complex, and the structures of businesses changing, the ability to negotiate is no longer a luxury but a necessity. Drawing on research in psychology, sociology, economics, and organizational behavior as well as dozens of interviews with men and women from all walks of life, "Women Don't Ask" is the first book to identify the dramatic difference between men and women in their propensity to negotiate for what they want. It tells women how to ask, and why they should.

Linda Babcock is James M. Walton Professor of Economics at the H. John Heinz III School of Public Policy and Management of Carnegie Mellon University in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. She has also been a visiting professor at Harvard Business School, The Unicersity of Chicago Graduate School of Business, and the California Institute of Technology. A specialist in negotiation and dis...

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目录
PREFACE: Why Negotiation, and Why Now? ix
INTRODUCTION: Women Don't Ask 1
CHAPTER ONE: Opportunity Doesn't Always Knock 17
CHAPTER TWO: A Price Higher than Rubies 41
CHAPTER THREE: Nice Girls Don't Ask 62

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用户评论
引用书中的一句话吧:negotiation is no longer optional. It's become a basic survival skill. 看看吧,你错过了多少本应属于你的东西。
最让人无力地就是,和外界争取了半天,发现问题的根子是原生家庭压根就没想让你拥有这一切。你拥有的已经够多啦,比上不足比下有余啊,人要知足才能快乐啊,去你妈的
Interesting perspective but I don’t like her style. Beating around the bushes but don’t have solid reasoning to cut in.
快速浏览三小时,语言相当通俗易懂,分析得逻辑清晰,主题也很明确:第一,女人要用女人自己的优势方式学会与社会与男人沟通 首当其冲的是去争取自己值得拥有的机会;第二,重申社会对女性的平等观念。 比较有意思的是文中的一些男女比较实例研究 可发散思考 自娱自乐 😄
有些视角很独特,推荐
读前半本觉得还不错,有很多心态方面的洞见。后半本有些失望,感觉在读文件综述。我想学一些客服心态的方法,但是后面像在justify,没有很多帮助…
这个附注,删了写写了删,不知道该怎么表达。还是希望大家都能说出自己的真实诉求,在任何情境下,这样的相处都会容易很多。
实操不多,最亮的是女性在mindset上需要意识到,不发起对话,不提问题,不表达需求,即便是在没有系统性性别歧视的情景中,不做这些事就已经成为自己的劣势了。从生活中的小事开始观察尝试,我们的生存空间不止这么一点。
非常值得一读。那些无处不在的隐形的偏见,要先知道它们的存在,才能学会保护和改变。每个人都应该读一下,平权不只是为了女性,而是为了一个对每个人都更好的世界。
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