Mating in Captivity - Esther Perel

Mating in Captivity

Esther Perel

出版时间

2007-10-10

ISBN

9780060753641

评分

★★★★★
书籍介绍

A New York City therapist examines the paradoxical relationship between domesticity and sexual desire and explains what it takes to bring lust home.

One of the world’s most respected voices on erotic intelligence, Esther Perel offers a bold, provocative new take on intimacy and sex. Mating in Captivity invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.

Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, Perel examines the complexities of sustaining desire. Through case studies and lively discussion, Perel demonstrates how more exciting, playful, and even poetic sex is possible in long-term relationships. Wise, witty, and as revelatory as it is straightforward, Mating in Captivity is a sensational book that will transform the way you live and love.

'Hello, I'm Esther... I imagine a world where we experience a sense of aliveness and vitality in our relationships, because the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives. I've dedicated my life and career to understanding and improving human relationships. Let's continue to learn together.'

Psychotherapist Esther Perel is recognised as one of the most ins...

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目录
Introduction
1 From Adventure to Captivity: Why the Quest for Security Saps Erotic Vitality
2 More Intimacy, Less Sex: Love Seeks Closeness, but Desire Needs Distance
3 The Pitfalls Of Modern Intimacy: Talk Is Not the Only Avenue to Closeness
4 Democracy Versus Hot Sex: Desire and Egalitarianism Don’t Play by the Same Rules

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用户评论
作者不愧是最著名两性关系专家,太多精彩案例,是治疗亲密关系问题的心理医生,很好奇,如果她跟齐泽克对侃,谁能赢?这种写作有些像Oliver Sacks医生,不过,心理医生比神经医生更主观吧,没Sacks的书那么引人入胜。
它告诉你婚姻是如何成为爱情的坟墓的。人和人之间靠得太近,就会连对象的面貌都看不清。
我觉得这本书还挺有参考意义的,而且很具有实用性。通篇基本讲两性关系中的“性”,普及了爱情中的常识,一些例子也挺吸引人的。说明不管是已婚还是未婚,可比自己单身难多了!
棒棒棒!我的情感解惑bible啊~
Esther写State of the Affairs十年前的作品。深深根植于当时的社会精神,和同时期的All About Love一样。没有State of the Affairs读起来那么折磨人,反而是促使我边读边反思安女士从小以身作则,对我在性方面的教育。其实可能正是她那个完全开放透明的态度帮我早早内化了一些女性通过therapy才第一次有认识的事情。比如性和爱可以是两回事,婚姻和爱情也可以是两回事,每个人都从头到尾是独立的个体。读这本书的时候正在冻卵,看形形色色的人婚姻故事倒是起到了些许慰藉作用。2023八月,迪拜
这是解读亲密关系的终极读本,对自己的性、情、灵、肉有未解的问题,都可以从这本书里获得一些启示,尤其是认真恋爱的情侣们,两个人同时读,会对亲密关系非常有帮助。Esther Perel真的是业界大佬,扎实的教育,丰富的临床经验,独到的见解,无人能望其项背。
Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source. - Anaïs Nin
原版是真的好
Maria’s gift - so much clarity and transmissivity (and poetics & playfulness) 💕
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