All You Can Ever Know - Nicole Chung

All You Can Ever Know

Nicole Chung

出版社

Catapult

出版时间

2018-10-02

ISBN

9781936787975

评分

★★★★★
书籍介绍
What does it mean to lose your roots―within your culture, within your family―and what happens when you find them? Nicole Chung was born severely premature, placed for adoption by her Korean parents, and raised by a white family in a sheltered Oregon town. From childhood, she heard the story of her adoption as a comforting, prepackaged myth. She believed that her biological parents had made the ultimate sacrifice in the hope of giving her a better life, that forever feeling slightly out of place was her fate as a transracial adoptee. But as Nicole grew up―facing prejudice her adoptive family couldn’t see, finding her identity as an Asian American and as a writer, becoming ever more curious about where she came from―she wondered if the story she’d been told was the whole truth. With warmth, candor, and startling insight, Nicole Chung tells of her search for the people who gave her up, which coincided with the birth of her own child. All You Can Ever Know is a profound, moving chronicle of surprising connections and the repercussions of unearthing painful family secrets―vital reading for anyone who has ever struggled to figure out where they belong.
用户评论
作者在成长过程中对自己身份的困惑,与其说是由于被收养带来的,不如说是由于作为白人社区里唯一亚裔而受到racism的bully而产生的,当然白人养父母Fail to reckon or explain doesn’t help either. 前大部分的内容都在反复地whiny,后半部人生轨迹与血缘家庭的交汇才变得更有趣起来。(当然作为没有类似经历的读者,怎么可能体会得到作者的辗转反侧呢。)
long journey to search one's root, abandoned and adopted infant at a very early age, trying to survive in the uneasy-to-adapted circumstance surrounded by all kinds of discrimination and racism. when it came the moment when she face her birth parents, that would be very difficult for both of them. it occurs to me, that theory, be born, to live.
【藏书阁打卡】书值得一看,可能是个人原因觉得情感太饱满了无法代入倒显得很煽情,作者的人生经历很独特,也许是命运的捉弄也许是命运的安排,她是被白人家庭领养的一个韩国人,她的养父母视她如己出,但她却无法向他们倾诉她遭遇的来自社会和学校的种族歧视,成家立业后,她决定寻根溯源,找到亲生父母,结果不如愿却也收获颇丰。大概,大部分被领养的孩子都曾有关于亲生父母的秘密,有的找到了答案,有的却一辈子无人知晓。
很想读更多这样的故事,三星是因为文笔不太对我的胃口
“I couldn’t even offer her forgiveness, because it wasn’t mine to give. Her real wrongdoings, acknowledged or not, had so little to do with me.”
很佩服能写自传的作家,把自己的不安来源和情绪都剖开,虽然其中的真诚程度不得而知,但是Nicole倾倒出来的细腻和细节还是特别特别好!再次印证人生故事的戏剧性并不弱于fictional plots
[有聲書] 韓裔被領養女孩尋找自己,在這過程中讓周圍的人也完整起來的故事。看過的第一本關於這樣身世的群體的書,感受到那種因為身世未知,夾在對眼前生活的隱隱疑問和對血親家庭的陌生之間的猶疑,對兩邊家庭的感受小心翼翼和求解自己內心疑問的迫切的複雜情緒。真是太複雜了。
能感觉到作者很真诚,也写得很personal,但是不知道为什么就完全不打动我…
A touching account on acceptance and reconciliation from an adoptee's perspective. What is important is to recognize that every story is unique by itself. What defines an individual is not what one lacks of, but what one strives for.
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