The Five Love Languages - Gary Chapman

The Five Love Languages

Gary Chapman

出版时间

1995-06-01

ISBN

9781881273158

评分

★★★★★
书籍介绍

Are you and your spouse speaking the same language? While love may be a many- splendored thing, it is sometimes a very confusing thing, too. And as people come in all varieties, shapes, and sizes, so do their choices of personal expressions of love. But, more often than not, the giver and the receiver express love in two different ways. This can lead to misunderstanding, quarrels, and even divorce. Dr. Gary Chapman identifies five basic languages of love: Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. He then guides couples towards a better understanding of their unique languages of love. Learn to speak and understand your mate's love language, and in no time you will be able to effectively love and truly feel loved in return. Skillful communication is within your grasp

Married more than 45 years to Karolyn, Dr. Gary Chapman is just the man to turn to for help on improving or healing our most important relationships. His own life experiences, plus over forty years of pastoring and marriage counseling, led him to publish his first book in the Love Language series, The 5 Love Languages®: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. Millions...

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都懂,然而还是做不到。自己是情感高需求者,需求很多,投其所好的供给不足。降低需求,简单相处,先爱自己。
虽然浪漫主义告诉我真正相爱的两个人应该毫不费力的生活在一起,但是事实是,爱情需要经营。人需要学会去爱和被爱
Good stuff, but these are not enough to explain my personal case.
My subway book. Great to know the theories.
热恋时期的爱不同于真爱,真爱需要付出心力去维系,需要我们使用爱的语言去滋养。作者为我们剖析了五种最常见的“爱的语言”:Affirmative Words(肯定的语言)、Quality Time(质量时间)、Gifts(赠送礼物)、Acts of Service(服务的行动)、Physical Touch(肢体接触)。观察你的伴侣使用的是哪种语言并使用它,你们的关系才能得到改善。读完这本书后,我发现自己和伴侣使用的爱的语言的确不一样,我们之间的一些小摩擦好像得到了解释。整体有点失望,没有想象中的醍醐灌顶,大概因为我在爱的语言方面还是比较有天赋的。
爱的五种语言:肯定言辞、高质量的时间、服务行为、肢体接触和礼物。看似简单,实则非常容易忽视,尤其是感情久了之后我们很容易把对方的付出认为理所当然。 每个人有不同的爱的语言,不要想当然认为对方和自己拥有相同的爱的语言,以自己以为好的方式对待对方。 爱的蓄水池和储蓄卡是需要我们长期维护,只消耗不经营爱的蓄水池早晚有一天会枯竭。爱的这五种语言是情侣、夫妻相处的基本指导原则,非常有实践指导意义。
虽然basic一点,但是love的需要的确需要affirmation,我也赞同love is about giving!criticism真的太伤人。虽然内容有点点少,但是LOVE WINS!quality time &intimacy, gift 也都蛮重要耶~
虽然有失严谨更像是畅销书,但是读完还是感觉有所收获
对于摩羯座又是人类学出身的作者所说的话我是听得进去的, 但是道理讲得再好听, 必须有行动和结果背书; 而婚姻和子女亲缘之间的承诺和纽带更强, 可操作性性更强, 但用在谈恋爱上说实话过于自我牺牲了, 作为过来人我表示不适用.
Simple and quick reading, quite informative, but oh gosh marriage is hard!
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