Sex Talks - Vanessa Marin

Sex Talks

Vanessa Marin

出版时间

2023-02-07

ISBN

9781668000014

评分

★★★★★
书籍介绍

The definitive guide to creating the sex life of your wildest dreams—just by talking about it!—from sexpert couple Vanessa and Xander Marin.

Why is it so hard to talk about sex, even with the person who regularly sees you naked?

You know communication is important in a relationship, but you just don’t know how to get started with such a sensitive subject. Maybe you’ve never talked about sex at all, and the thought of it makes your palms sweat. Or you’re feeling so disconnected from your partner that sex is the last thing on your mind. Maybe you’re too scared to be honest about what you really want. Or you have no freaking clue what you want, so you’re not sure how to tell your partner anything helpful!

Sex Talks is here to change that. Together, sex therapist Vanessa Marin and her husband, Xander, show you that the best thing you can do for your sex life doesn’t even involve taking off your clothes.

Sex Talks covers the five essential conversations every couple needs to have:

1. Acknowledgement: a.k.a. “Sex is a thing, and we have it.”

2. Connection: a.k.a. “What do we need to feel connected to each other?”

3. Desire: a.k.a. “What do we each need to get turned on?”

4. Pleasure: a.k.a. “What do we each need to feel good?”

5. Exploration: a.k.a. “What should we try next?”

With gripping storytelling and an intimate peek at what really goes on behind other couples’ closed bedroom doors, Vanessa and Xander share their successful advice that has already helped hundreds of thousands. Sex Talks provides you with the sex education you wish you’d had, plus the tried-and-tested tools you need to create the sex life of your wildest dreams.

用户评论
让人意外的好看,沿袭the 5 love languages的思路,换到性事把最难开口的问题清晰提炼,笑谈间让人很受启发。基于sex therapist的咨询经验,诸如利用penis owner这样巧妙的玩笑来建立第三方视角,例子选的也有diversity优势,gay couple、open relationship、trans,主要是针对异性恋,但隔壁的探寻似乎非常值得参考。关于身体先冲动跟需要情绪先舞动的两个类型区分,写的最好的一点也是谁initiate,比大众默认的所谓主动、被动干净而透彻。没有建议助兴工具,全是利用沟通交流来解决问题,展示真实的情绪,刻意倾听,建立更安全稳固的intimacy。性是人最生动的一面,再笃信理性的笨石块,在性面前也能温柔一些,能在方面认真探索一下,人生。
以为是陈词滥调,却发现有些真知灼见。很有用。
Many interesting nuggets (e.g., Stop shoulding yourself all over the place!) but a bit insensitive or immature at times. Overall a good read. Took pictures of those suggestions list pages haha. December 2023, OC.
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