The Tragedy of Heterosexuality

Jane Ward, 简·沃德

出版社

NYU Press

出版时间

2020-09-01

ISBN

9781479851553

评分

★★★★★
书籍介绍
当‘你为什么是异性恋’这个被默认抹去的问题被重新提出,本书给出了令人不安的答案。作者以酷儿视角审视当代异性恋:直女在家中继续与性别压迫搏斗,直男却以情感缺席、拒绝承担亲密劳动,将女性朋友的扶持视为理所当然。书中揭示‘厌女悖论’——男性深爱女性,又被训练去蔑视女性;异性恋被证明不是纯粹的爱,而是不平等结构下的政治关系。令人争议的结论是:治愈异性恋‘病态’的,既非自助书也非PUA,而是女同性恋女性主义。它适合所有愿意直面亲密关系中权力与剥削的人,尽管其理想图景能否被直男真正践行,仍是一个悬而未决的问号。
作者简介
Jane Ward is Professor of Gender and Sexuality Studies at University of California Riverside, where she teaches courses in feminist, queer, and heterosexuality studies. She is the author of Not Gay: Sex Between Straight White Men (New York University Press, 2015), and Respectably Queer: Diversity Culture in LGBT Activist Organizations.
AI导读
核心看点
  • 酷儿视角解构异性恋,揭示其结构性悲剧
  • 批判父权制下直女的情感劳动与身心消耗
  • 提出深层异性恋概念,呼吁学习女同之爱
读者共识
  • 视角独特犀利,深刻揭示异性恋中的权力不对等
  • 直女处境被精准描述,引发强烈共鸣与反思
  • 理论深刻但实践路径理想化,落地难度较大
精彩摘录
  • "Rape was understood by lesbian feminists not only as an act of patriarchy but also as a normalised expression of heterosexuality Kindle 199/4777"
  • "Heterosexual privilege is usually the only privilege that black women have…maintaining ‘straightness’ is our last resort Kindle 60/4777"
  • "interviewed described their boyfriends as selfish, jealous,insensitive,boring,arrogant,and generally unappealing,and yet they also described a high likelihood that they would marry these men because they did not believe better men were available and they feared being lonely.51 This tragic arrangemen"
  • "toxic masculinity, which keeps men isolated andincapable of leaning on each other....While [women]read countless self-help books,listen to podcasts,seekout career advisors,turn to female friends for adviceand support,or spend a small fortune on therapists todeal with old wounds and current problems,"
用户评论
非常有意思的酷儿视角!与酷儿群体相比,异性恋才是可怜的、“病态的”。能够治好异性恋的“病态”的既不是self-help books也不是PUA和“dating science”而是lesbian feminism。直男要向拉拉学习,从而实现deep heterosexuality — love women so much so that they actually identify with women.
直女真的太惨了,拉拉只需要在外部世界与性别压迫作斗争,直女回到家里还要继续斗争,所以到底怎样才能变成拉拉?
异性恋(女性)真可怜
Jane Ward's writing never fails me!!
虽然但是,就真的仿佛连呼吁都没用力吧
我发现相比quantitative book我更爱读qualitative,一直以为这是人类正常反应结果发现身边econ朋友都不是这样 🥸 入错行了?
一个月的读书会读完了 喜欢intro和最后一章 但是就像讨论里有人说的 最后的设想多么美好啊 男人爱女人是真的爱女人 但是几个直男会去读呢 好庆幸自己碰到了一个!
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