Get the Truth

Philip Houston

出版时间

2016-05-13

ISBN

9781250080592

评分

★★★★★
书籍介绍
这不是一本教你'看穿谎言'的读心术手册,而是一套关于如何让人主动开口说真话的沟通方法论。作者以中情局探员的专业背景为底,核心主张相当反直觉:说服的本质不是对抗与审问,而是通过'询问'而非'审讯'的姿态,让对方暂时遗忘撒谎的长远后果,进入'即时思维'状态,从而自愿披露信息。全书反复强调的,是低柔声调、精准选词、同理心与'过渡性独白'等技术细节,其底色是一种'以理性走入对方感性世界'的沟通智慧。读者既盛赞其'不打、不骂、不批评'却暗含掌控的实操性,也坦诚质疑部分手法在国内环境中的适用边界。适合管理者、沟通者以及所有希望'让所有人对你说真话'的人。
作者简介
PHLIP HOUSTON, a twenty-five-year veteran of the Central Intelligence Agency and a recipient of the Career Intelligence Medal, is a nationally recognized authority on deception detection, critical interviewing, and elicitation. He has conducted thousands of interviews and interrogations for the CIA and other federal agencies, and is credited with developing a detection of deception methodology currently employed throughout the U.S. intelligence and federal law enforcement communities. MICHAEL FLOYD is a leading authority on interviewing, detection of deception, and elicitation in cases involving criminal activity, personnel screening, and national security issues. In a career spanning more than thirty-five years, he has served in both the CIA and the National Security Agency, and has conducted high-profile interviews and interrogations for law enforcement agencies, law firms, and private industry. SUSAN CARNICERO, a former security officer with the CIA specializing in national security, employment, and criminal issues, is an eminent authority on interviewing, detection of deception, and elicitation. Trained as a forensic psychologist, she is the developer of a behavioral screening program used extensively in both the public and private sectors, and is currently involved in conducting high-level screening interviews within the U.S. government. PETER ROMARY, an internationally recognized attorney who has worked for government and private sector clients worldwide. He is an expert in detection of deception, interviewing, elicitation, negotiation, and risk management and in applying the techniques in law, business, and negotiation. DON TENNANT, the writer, is a former National Security Agency analyst and business/technology journalist. As editor in chief of Computerworld, he won a variety of national journalism awards.
AI导读
核心看点
  • 前CIA特工揭秘获取真相的心理学技巧
  • 通过共情与独白引导对方进入短期思维
  • 掌握非对抗性沟通,降低对方防御心理
读者共识
  • 专业性强,提供了理性与感性结合的沟通策略
  • 技巧实用,但部分方法在国内文化语境下受限
  • 强调同理心与倾听,颠覆传统审讯的刻板印象
精彩摘录
  • "不要担心你的善良和冷静的言辞会被视为一种软弱的标志,或自信心缺乏的表现。事实正相反——它表明你对自己的能力充分自信,所以你根本不需要通过侵犯性或暴力性策略来实现你的目的。"
  • "我不喜欢那个人。所以,我必须更好地了解他。——亚伯拉罕·林肯"
  • "他必须给他明确的信息:你的计划已经失败了。"
  • "声调要低,嗓音要柔和,语速要不缓不急。由于当时情形所限,你是处于对抗性的位置,但是,你又需要依靠陈述的方式从事实表面深入探寻。"
  • "需要注意的是,你的表述词汇必须精心选择。在DOG中,你可以说“询问”,不能说审讯。你说她“拿走”了药品,不能说“偷走”。这些细微的差别可以让詹进入瞬时思维模式。不能使用引发后果思考的语言——比如让她意识到自己可能被解雇,或面临牢狱之灾。"
  • "这样的情绪根本不是临时的,甚至时间把握也是早有安排。 经验告诉我们,要确保转换陈述后面的话充满同情或产生移情。那样的话,这个人就能听到你希望他听到的意思。菲利普的同情表达鼓励着李按照正确的思维方式去接受他的独白。"
  • "共情——他不仅关心李,而且体会到他的感受。必须说明,这一移情式的表达是有待商榷的:菲利普的说法并不真实。此处的要点是,你在独白中所说的话必须是相关的、可信的,但未必是真实的(关于这点我们会在第六章详细阐述)。"
  • "人类行为和逻辑之间的关系是很随意的。我们不能武断地认为,坏人或者任何其他人,在特定情况下会有特定的行为表现。我们的经验一次次表明这是错误的。"
用户评论
relationship building; short-term thinking; transition monologue; bait and presumptive questions; remain in control; CYA
Nobody deserve to live in the fake news with polical propaganda.
利用自己的理性,走入对方的感性世界。
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