'Toad', the famous character in Kenneth Grahame's The Wind in the Willows is in a very depressed state and his good friends Rat, Mole and Badger, are 'worried that he might do something silly'...
First they nursed him. Then they encouraged him. Then they told him to pull himself together... Finally, Badger could stand it no longer. That admirable animal, though long on exhortation, was short on patience.
'Now look here Toad, this can go on no longer', he said sternly. 'There is only one thing left. You must have counselling!'
Robert de Board's engaging account of Toad's experience of counselling will capture the imagination of the growing readership of people who are interested in counselling and the counselling process. Written as a real continuation of life on the River Bank, Toad and his friends come to life all over again.
Heron, the counsellor, uses the language and ideas of transactional analysis as his counselling method. Through the dialogues which make up the ten sessions, or chapters of the book, Toad learns how to analyse his own feelings and develop his emotional intelligence. He meets his 'rebellious child' and his 'adult' along the way, and by the end of the book, as debonair as ever he was, is setting out on a completely new adventure. As readers learn about Toad, so they can learn about themselves and be encouraged to take the path of psychological growth and development.
Best-selling author, Robert de Board says: 'Toad's experiences are based on my own experiences of counselling people over a period of twenty years. Counselling for Toads is really an amalgamation of the many counselling sessions I have held and contains a distillation of the truths I have learnt from practice.'
Appropriate for anyone approaching counselling for the first time, whether as a student or as a client, or for the professional counsellor looking for something to recommend to the hesitant, Counselling for Toads will appeal to both children and adults of all ages.
Robert de Board is an organizational consultant based in Henley-on-Thames. He is the author of Counselling Skills (1994) and The Psychoanalysis of Organisations Routledge (1990).
- 借经典童话角色演绎心理咨询全过程
- 解析童年经历对成人行为的深层塑造
- 揭示自我批判与情绪调节的心理机制
- 对心理咨询感兴趣的普通读者
- 渴望自我探索与心理疗愈的人群
- 心理学入门及自助成长爱好者
- 关注蛤蟆从抑郁到自愈的心路历程
- 体会对话中隐含的心理学专业概念
- 结合自身体验反思童年与当下的关系
- 故事生动有趣，通俗易懂且深刻
- 是极佳的心理学科普与入门读物
- 能引发强烈共鸣，带来治愈与启发
本导读基于书籍简介、目录、原文摘录、短评和书评生成，不等同于全文精读。
- "能帮你的人是你自己，也只有你自己。有许多问题需要你向自己发问。比如你能停止自我批判吗？你能对自己好一些吗？也许最重要的问题是，你能开始爱自己吗？"
- "“我认为你在玩游戏，你很会玩一个叫【PLOM】的游戏。poor littlle old me——意思是【可怜弱小的我啊】。这个游戏你每局都赢了，也可以说是输了，这取决于你自己的看法。 ”我真不明白你在说什么。“蛤蟆恼怒地说，”我没有玩游戏，我诚实地告诉你这么件糟心事，你倒说我再跟你玩游戏？“蛤蟆一脸责怪地看着苍鹭。 ”诚实是个很有意思的词“ ”你的意思是我不诚实？“蛤蟆真要发火了，好歹他的家族座右铭可是”捍卫名誉“。 ”是的，就是这个意思。“苍鹭的回答让人惊讶。”不过，我说的‘不诚实’和平时的意思有些不同，我是说，你可能对自己不诚实。为什么你总是遇到类似的事情？这些事情最后都让你显得很愚蠢，让"
- "“这意味着每一个婴儿都必须学习如何调整他的基本行为，来应对自己所处的初始状况。这些调整，就像原子核一样，以后我们所有的行为都围绕着这个核心形成和发展。当然，人生后面阶段的许多其他事件也会对我们造成影响，但这些最早期的经历塑造了人格的维形，所以我们无法否认也无法忘记它们。”"
- "“想象在一个很小的星球上只住着三个人：你和其他两个人。那两个人的身高比你高一倍还多，所有的事情你都得完完全全依赖他们，不光是吃喝，你的情感需求都得靠他们来满足。他们通常都对你很好，你也用爱来回应他们。但有些时候，他们会对你生气，这让你感到害怕和不快。他们是那么的高大有力，所以你感到很无助。 你没法逃离，所以只能忍受这个状况。那也就是说，我得学着调整自己的行为来适应这个特定的情形。"
- "所以哭也没关系吗？”，“我记得父亲完全不允许我哭。我一哭，他就会说：马上停下来，不然我就要对你发怒了！所以我当然就停了下来 “你现在可以选择，”苍鹭非常严肃地说，“你是要听从你已经死了的父亲的声音，还是要允许自己做主？”"
- "所以父母若是严厉挑别，这个孩子就必须学习如何应对他们，他会将自然行为调整为最能适应现状的行为"
- "顺从行为可能导致有些人学会了把依赖当成生活方式。换句话说，这些人永远都没有真正长大成人。"
- "“正是这样！而这就是你小时候所体验到的。这样仁蕊的独裁者，也就是你的父母，显然占了上风，而你又完全依赖着他们，你怎么能对他们生气呢？何况你还爱着他们。”"
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