Modern Love, Revised and Updated
出版时间
2019-09-03
ISBN
9780593137048
评分
★★★★★
书籍介绍
这本集子最耐人寻味的地方，不在那些戏剧性的桥段，而在它反复向读者确认一件事：爱情故事没有新东西可写。书里写被拉黑后的哀伤五阶段、写精神 Bipolar 者的恋爱起伏、写七旬离婚者回望残垣，看似抓马，作者却借一句「最好的爱是一辆手推车，而非一朵玫瑰」点破——爱 gritty、messy，却耐久。读者反馈里反复出现的，正是这种「平淡故事也能写出感情溢出」的力量：普通人笔下的日常，因诚实而动人。它适合想每天读一篇、在别人的脆弱里照见自己的人，也适合对剧集改编失望、想回到文字原味的读者。它不承诺浪漫，只承诺真实。
作者简介
Daniel Jones has edited the Modern Love column in The New York Times since its launch in 2004. His books include "Love Illuminated: Exploring Life's Most Mystifying Subject with the Help of 50,000 Strangers," "The Bastard on the Couch: 27 Men Try Really Hard to Explore Their Feelings About Love, Loss, Freedom, and Fatherhood," and a novel, "After Lucy," which was a finalist for the Barnes & Noble Discover Award. His new book, "Modern Love," is an anthology of many of the best Modern Love columns from the past 15 years. Jones appears weekly on the Modern Love podcast and is consulting producer for Amazon Studios' show "Modern Love." He lives in Northampton, Massachusetts and in New York City.
AI导读
核心看点
- 纽约时报专栏精选，收录十五年真实情感故事
- 涵盖约会、失恋、再婚等多元现代恋爱议题
- 文笔细腻真实，展现爱的脆弱与勇气
读者共识
- 故事真实动人，能引发强烈情感共鸣
- 部分篇章略显平淡，不如剧集改编精彩
- 文笔优美，适合碎片时间轻松阅读
精彩摘录
- "If I were Spock from Star Trek, I would explain that human love is a combination of three emotions or impulses: desire, vulnerability, and bravery. Desire makes one feel vulnerable, which then requires one to be brave."
- "What would have happened if any of those relationships had lasted, bumbling along in all their glaring wrongness? Instead of just being dumped and consoling myself with pints of Chunky Monkey and viewings of Breakfast at Tiffany's, I could have been facing any one of these men in divorce court, or b"
- "It took a long time for me to figure out what I was dealing with. But I'm a woman, which means that, in my heart of hearts, I have long understood that certain things are never going to happen in my life. I won't, by way of example, be modeling swimsuits for Sports Illustrated, representing my count"
- "From where I sit, however - as someone who has read, skimmed, or otherwise digested some one hundred thousand love stories over the past fifteen years - love, at its best, is more of a wheelbarrow than a rose: gritty and messy but also durable. Because love, for me, is less about definitions than ex"
- "Though often perky, the Manic Pixie Dream Girl will be troubled as well. She straddles the narrow line between quirky and crazy, mysterious and strange, sexy and slutty; she is perfectly imperfect. And that imperfection is the key, because a Manic Pixie Dream Girl must be messed up enough to need sa"
- "In the morning I would question her whereabouts, more disapproving parent than angry lover, playing my role of the calm, rational, square boyfriend. She would just nod, say a perfunctory sorry, and go to sleep. At night she was the Manic Pixie Dream Girl for other people; during the day I got the Hu"
- "When I said in my letter I knew my love couldn’t fix her depression, I was lying. I thought my love could fix everything, including her depression. That letter was my Grand Gesture, the one that saves the relationship and the girl. It was my Lloyd Dobler moment, holding a boombox over my head, blast"
- "Not long after I returned from my trip, she dumped me. There would be no effort to save the relationship; no longer all-in, she was all-out. It seemed my love couldn’t “fix” her after all, and even worse, she didn’t want to be fixed. Needing to be repaired is the No. 1 rule of being a Manic Pixie Dr"
用户评论
34/尽量每天读一篇 觉得小故事读起来挺轻松的 我好喜欢看！估计我要读很久了ps觉得电视剧拍的太好了 真的是按照文章拍的 喜欢！
//终于读完了 Love loss and redemption
都是作家写的故事，感觉在常人眼里平凡而又普通的生活在他们的笔下就跃然纸上了
3.5 stars! An interesting collecton of essays about modern love. I love that other than romantic love, it explored various facets of love. However, some stories are really bland and somewhat boring - not sure how they made the cut.
会给人重新相信生活，相信生命的错觉的短篇/专栏合集。看剧集的时候就对两位老人的那集颇有感触，今天读到了文字原版，比剧集好太多了！不知道读什么，或者阅读时间很赶的时候拿起来读几篇非常可。文字永远比电视剧集有力量，哦耶！
故事都是作家写的， 文笔都很美，平淡无奇的故事也能写到感情溢出来。剧确实选了故事最精彩的几篇，但是领养和离婚咨询那两集的改编很蛇足，bipolar一集几乎是完全遵照原文，Hinge创始人的真实故事比改编的更真实动人，看完忍不住去全面八卦了一番，两个人现在还在一起，个人最喜欢的急诊室那一集两个人在半年后还是分手了，what a pity. 全书最大的takeaway是爱情是没有定论，有的人爱得死去活来，把世上最深刻曼妙的词找来也无法形容我对你的爱，但是几个月之后就能遇到相守一生的the new one。有的人几十年不见，旧爱仍存。现代爱情 与古典爱情的核心是一样的，那就是去爱吧，不同的是，形式更多了，变体更多了，选择更多了，但是，还是要去爱啊。
文字比剧集更有感染力 好几篇让人泪目
很好读的小短篇合集
美式饮食男女人生百态
因为喜欢podcast和美剧看了这本集子，影视改编果然选了一些最有意思的故事。亲情，爱情，友情，爱的形式本来就应该各种各样。
老美生活太平淡了。我知道的八卦比这些人自爆的八卦有意思多了。
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