Chatter - Ethan Kross

Chatter

Ethan Kross

出版时间

2021-01-26

ISBN

9780525575238

评分

★★★★★
书籍介绍
An award-winning psychologist reveals the hidden power of our inner voice and shows how we can harness it to live a healthier, more satisfying, and more productive life. “This book is going to fundamentally change some of the most important conversations in your life—the ones you have with yourself.”—Adam Grant, bestselling author of Give and Take One of the best new books of the year—The Washington Post, BBC, CNN Underscored, Shape, Behavioral Scientist, PopSugar • Kirkus Reviews and Publishers Weekly starred reviews • Next Big Idea Club Finalist Tell a stranger that you talk to yourself, and you’re likely to get written off as eccentric. But the truth is that we all have a voice in our head. When we talk to ourselves, we often hope to tap into our inner coach but find our inner critic instead. When we’re facing a tough task, our inner coach can buoy us up: Focus—you can do this. But, just as often, our inner critic sinks us entirely: I’m going to fail. They’ll all laugh at me. What’s the use? In Chatter, acclaimed psychologist Ethan Kross explores the silent conversations we have with ourselves. Interweaving groundbreaking behavioral and brain research from his own lab with real-world case studies—from a pitcher who forgets how to pitch, to a Harvard undergrad negotiating her double life as a spy—Kross explains how these conversations shape our lives, work, and relationships. He warns that giving in to negative and disorienting self-talk—what he calls “chatter”—can tank our health, sink our moods, strain our social connections, and cause us to fold under pressure. But the good news is that we’re already equipped with the tools we need to make our inner voice work in our favor. These tools are often hidden in plain sight—in the words we use to think about ourselves, the technologies we embrace, the diaries we keep in our drawers, the conversations we have with our loved ones, and the cultures we create in our schools and workplaces. Brilliantly argued, expertly researched, and filled with compelling stories, Chatter gives us the power to change the most important conversation we have each day: the one we have with ourselves.
用户评论
Pop science. I'll try distancing yourself by using third or second person pronuns and see if it works at all... Not hopeful
应该是新工作开始之后第一本读完的书,带娃的间隙看完了,有些tips挺实用的,可以尝试多用第二第三人称讲述自己的故事,想想自己的欣赏的人会怎么做,journalling也可以尝试一下。最后一章有总结,可以时不时翻一下提醒自己。
全是老掉牙的东西,有些内容还是强行捆绑到“内省对话”这个话题上。 Ethan Kross 跟有些学术大佬一样,似乎一直活在自己的信息茧房里,他们在学术上都是一流好手,但他们真的不知道普通读者对于相关话题大概有怎样的基本认知。这本书里被作者当宝贝一样捧出来的东西其实早就在无数本科普书里提烂了。
like the first half. next time finding myself in self-depressive talks: distance yourself, use non-I statement: your name/you. too academic like a research paper
期待这本书被翻译,讲得很中立,给了很多实用的方法,仿佛是一本带了解释和实证信息的实用手册,更难得的是它还不像一般的手册那样冷冰冰,作者代入了自己的处境,让这个手册很有温度,从他对故事的娓娓道来中引出问题,导向实证研究,给出行动建议。非常值得读的一本书。
新瓶装旧酒,chatter就是“负面情绪”的新说法,以为换个马甲我就不认识你了?
开头讲verbal功能的重要性、对人情绪的影响/backfire,以及内在对话和外在交流的关系很有趣:包括working memory、自我控制指令的功能、paralysis by analysis、向外诉说负面情绪、social media 带来的变化etc。后面关于如何控制负面chatter很有启发,验证了一些平常的体会,也有解释和修正。核心是Distancing,不是detach 不是变钝感或盲目自信etc,而是从更远更大更客观的视角上获得更多perspectives,被科学研究证实之外,更有一种有一种宇宙之中大我、无我的美感。从这一核心演生出来的许多具体效应及总结的tools很实用。
碎碎念是人之常态,可以换一种方式(内耗者最爱)试着以第三者(或者一只苍蝇复原)当时的现状和感觉,及各种碎碎念,相信我只是讲这些碎碎念用键盘敲出来,就算是治愈
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